OK, that’s it. Stop. Think. After Donald Trump’s recent interviews in nation-wide media outlets, not disavowing his relationship with David Duke, the outspoken, “once-a-candidate,” KKK member, makes Trump, in the words of one journalist, “unelectable.” Duke has endorsed Trump for the Presidency.
If we haven’t had a fairly militant, or passionate response to the even the possibility (as I write this it’s Super Tuesday) that Trump could be the Republican front-runner, and maybe President. I don’t know about you, but this causes shivers to run up & down my spine.

It’s curious to me that reports are so conflicting over this issue. He tells one interviewer he doesn’t know Duke, but, please, have you been alive for the last decade, living on this planet, and don’t know who David Duke is & what he advocates for (hate& violence) in his apparent new role as the “pied piper.”

I’ve wondered to myself, what are the conditioning factors of a person like Donald Trump? How does one getto be so unaware of her own behavior (I’m not a mind reader so I don’t really know), in Trump’s case, his ownpolitical & rhetorical style is raw, blunt, emotion-stirring& driven, biased, based on his own inferences not fact, some might say abusive (he turned to an audience member at one his rallies, and asked her if she was Mexican), and certainly race-baiting.

Another factor about Donald Trump is that he’s got a good case of narcissism and “big headedness.” Glenda Blair has written a book about the Trump family. David Margolick, reviews the book in the New York Times Book Section, December 3, 2000. At Donald Trump’s father’s funeral in the late Nineties, Trump showed his self absorption, having little to say about his father:

Appalling, perhaps. But astonishing? Astonishing to whom? Surely not to anyone who’s followed the career of Donald Trump — which is to say, virtually everyone. No one can doubt he has done remarkable things. But not content to let the facts speak for themselves, he has been breathtakingly, unabashedly, unceasingly immodest. Whether one credits all of his superlatives he spreads around — the ”biggest” and ”greatest” this, the ”richest” and ”sexiest” that — few would dispute his stranglehold on the one title he has never claimed: the most swollen swelled head on earth. He has plastered his name on everything: hotels, apartment buildings, casinos, an airline, a yacht, a quiz show, a bicycle race, golf courses and even a board game (lowest denomination, $10 million, and guess whose smiling face is on every bill). He is forever flaunting beautiful women on his arm, always with a smugness suggesting that they are his just deserts (or desserts).

Watching and listening to Trump, one always has to ask two questions: Could anyone ever really be so full of himself? Or is it all an act? To Blair, the author of ”Almost Golden: Jessica Savitch and the Selling of Television News,” the answers are, essentially, ”Yes” and ”No.” True, Trump knows that his very name is as golden as the facades of his buildings and helped to save him from bankruptcy a decade ago. But that Trump’s conceit has made and kept him wealthy makes it no less genuine; it is a matter of conviction, not tactics. A man who so loves himself does not have much room left for anything or anyone else, which is bad news for Blair. Someone so deeply shallow, so profoundly superficial, yet so painstakingly scrutinized for so long by so many reporters and gossipmongers is not a promising subject to write about — unless, that is, she uncovers something everyone else has managed to miss.

Blair neatly captures Trump’s uncanny business instincts, as well as his competitiveness, chutzpah, cruelty, vulgarity and hucksterism. And she catches him in his lies, or what Trump himself calls ”truthful hyperbole” — inflating the number of floors in his buildings to give each more cachet; hiring bulldozers to go back and forth uselessly outside a casino site to give potential partners the illusion of activity; boasting of paying cash — $8 million of it — for his Palm Beach pleasure dome, Mar-a-Lago, when he’d actually put down only $2,811 of his own money. She also reintroduces us to Ivana Winklmayr, the beauty from Czechoslovakia whom Trump married in 1977. It was Ivana who gave Trump his first three children and his most enduring nickname — The Donald — only to be traded in, a dozen years later, for a younger and more pliable model named Marla Maples.

Margolick uses Trump’s own, interesting term when He references the term “truthful hyperbole.” Trump appears to use the over-inflated statements & opinions of a New York street punk, and the logic of a jackass; I’ve found very few statements he’s made that mention any source or reference making his political & rhetorical points. It doesn’t take an expert to tell you that if you have a serious “narcissism” problem, it’s like a chronic & terminal eye disease, and very easily may lead to, or trigger, pathology, or “false to facts” reasoning.

Another little-known fact is that Trump’s father was a known sympathizer & associate of the KKK. In 1927, Fred Trump was arrested in New York for a melee between police & the KKK; a number of people were wounded in the disturbance, and Trump was thrown in jail.

I’m actually glad that Trump is the Republican candidate who must be beat at this point! Why? Trump is the ex officio example of a politician (saying he really isn’t the “average” politician) who doesn’t care about what people think about his blatantly racist remarks & behaviors, nor his form of dishing out a neoconservative & racist message. He has done his part to graphically display the ultimate contrast to Social Justice. We thank you, Donald.

The other piece of this is that it’s brought out the racism, exceptionalism, & ignorance of many people in this nation; racism has never left-it returns in a multi-display of costumes and clown outfits over a number of generations, and really since the founding of the nation & prior to that as well. The reason so many people are responding to Trump is fear. They’re afraid of American Whites not being the majority demographic in American culture & politics. Sorry folks, you can’t change what’s already happened, and it’s moral & rational foolishness to attempt the idea to try to go back in time, to a lesser state of social consciousness, to a lesser state of continuous abuse of Civil Rights .

A topic for another time is fundamentalist or conservative co-dependency on bigoted politicians.

As it has often been said, if we refuse to learn from history, we’re doomed to repeat it. When Trump moved from being the entertaining clown (incidentally, he loved playing the “class clown” role in school) among the Republicans, to being the iconic spokesman for racism, bias, & bigotry; he moved into the realm of danger for the human rights & civil rights of all Americans. Because this is the arena where ideology & power meet and do their work of attempting to influence the thought processes of human beings, in their own behalf, with their political agenda.

Between now & the election, will you choose to be an insurgent against Donald Trump, using whatever your wisdom & skills tell you what to do? Time is short. Let’s find our space to act!

©Christopher Bear-Beam March 1, 2016

The story of New Zealand’s best known writer as a peer

Janet Frame (1924-2004) is known as New Zealands best-known writer.  She wrote a three-volume autobiography.  Her autobiography, in the second volume, An Angel at My Table, shadows her life as a student and her years of incarceration in mental hospitals.  Her book, An Angel at My Table, first published in 1984, won the Non-fiction Prize of the New Zealand Book Awards.

After a suicide attempt when she was still an adolescent, she was committed to a mental hospital for eight years.  Janet Frame was a survivor, and as she wrote of herself, she experienced the “homelessness of self.”  While hospitalized, she received two hundred electroshock treatments, and she was about to have a lobotomy, when a hospital official heard she had just received a literary award.  She was released by her doctor, probably because the official realized that a lobotomy most likely would cripple her literary talents.

What’s crucial in Janet Frame’s story is that not only was she a writer, but she was a peer: she had gone through the mental health system, that had left many psychological scars on her psyche, but she had come out on the other side, in a flair of her own passionate desire to be a writer—she used her resiliency & her recovery, in her writing and exploration of life.

As I read An Angel at My Table, what roused an intense interest for me, was the kinds of stigma she faced, even as a celebrated author.  She frequently used a self-stigmatizing label referring to herself (based on what others had said) as a “lovely girl, no trouble at all.” This internalized label paints the picture of victim & the one who quietly doesn’t make any waves.  

We, as peers with a psychiatric diagnosis, still have much stigma that challenges us in the world.  It’s done in our contemporary culture in new & different ways.  It’s important to bear in mind that Janet lived in New Zealand, and spent her youthful years during the Fifties, with all of that era’s notions of stereotypical ideas and myths.

In her autobiography, Janet allows us to take a peek into her life.  A writer has the unique opportunity to artfully select the experiences, emotions, and exasperations that she wants to convey in her writing.  I know from personal experience as a poet and writer, that writing is self-reflective and writing-to-heal is a very therapeutic activity.

As peers, many of us have faced the experience of hospitalization.  One of the major challenges in returning home after hospitalization is dealing with one’s family that still has many of the same family-system issues. As mentioned before, in her family constellation, Janet was the “mad girl, Janet.”  This stigma manifested more significantly until New Zealand finally declared her “sane,”  but even continued, at times, to be an issue years after this pronouncement. For us, there’s an equally true problem: if a person is a felon, even due to her mentally erratic/diagnosable behavior, this label stays with us, and effects our future, in a major way

In one instance, Janet went with her brother, using their voices and their rights to get twenty dollars from the Public Trust Office; when Janet was hospitalized, her bank account was taken over by this government office when she was declared “officially insane.”  The issue of the State’s categorizing of either Janet’s insanity, or sanity, depending on her age and circumstances as time moved on.

In 1945, Janet was told by one of her doctors that she had schizophrenia, a diagnosis she knew nothing about.  She writes about her feelings when she hears what her diagnosis is: “What would happen to me?  No cure.  Gradual deterioration.  I suffered from shizzophreenier (Janet’s spelling).  It seemed to spell my doom as if I had emerged from a chrysalis, the natural human state, into another kind of creature, and even if there were parts of me that were familiar to human beings, my gradual deterioration would lead me further and further away, and in the end not even my family would know me.” (p. 72)

We now understand that Mental Illness may be precipitated by various catalysts: early, childhood trauma, genetic disposition, social & cultural conditioners, environmental & chemical causes, peer influences, and brain chemistry changes; thankfully, we’re now seeing more research studies that enable us to comprehend the nature of the mind, the brain, and consciousness with their holistic relationships.

Here’s a brief summary of Janet’s life through her early twenties.  Janet grew up poor; at an early age her teeth began to rot and crack; her family relied on making their own clothes or getting them in a “hand-me-down” manner; Janet also had a close, intimate relationship with her family’s rural homestead, embellished with natural beauty and provision of food they grew personally for themselves to survive; her family and close friends of the family constantly told her she should get her wiry hair straightened—she’d look better and feel more in step with society if she did so.

Clearly, Janet’s greatest pain & grief in life came from seeing her mother’s need to be the primary caretaker—something that was fitting for women not men—always doing what women were supposed to do to the Nth degree—getting food by walking into town, and carrying it back home, taking care of those plants and flowers she was growing, caring for the needs of the children and her husband, never stopping, filling her humanly-designed cup with more service, more work, and hardly any rest.

Janet’s emotional cut-off from her family seemed to be a prominent tempura throughout her life, yet with the indelible need to visit her family’s home—Willowglen—as a way to center herself and to enjoy her good memories of a once care-free childhood.

After a drawn-out period of chronic, physical weakening & illness, her mother died; her death brought up many things for Janet.  It brought up the ambiguities of anger, depression, loss, grief & joy of nature found at Willowglen; she also found much ambivalence.  For example, she writes about her anger towards sexism, and its effect on her mother.  She wonders the “what if” and “why” questions: what if her mother had had a life of her own desire & autonomy, and not the cultural footprints under which her mother had received her dose of internalized oppression? What if her mother had found her voice and her own power as a separate person?  What if she was totally empowered to be who she was?

Her reflection, no doubt, was perhaps a projection of her own fears, her own anger & depression, and the meaning of her own life; as time went on, Janet was able to integrate her  

I believe that much of Janet’s healing came from her being a “wounded healer,” a term coined by Henri Nouwen.  A “wounded healer” is a person who has been transformed by their own sufferings, and wants to share their recovery story with others.  They’re probably the most effective healers because their healings have initiated a desire to have compassion for others—they know it, been there, done that!

All of us in the Peer Support Movement, those with a Mental Illness, and their family members, can resonate with Janet Frame’s story of healing; I am a writer who has become experienced at using my writing-as-healing; one of the concepts that helps me, and is reinforced by Janet Frame’s life, is knowing and comprehending that one anti-dote for depression, oppression, repression, compression, and suppression is choosing a means of creative expression that is a good fit for us.  Transformative healing is a direct result, in this writer’s opinion, of some implemented form of expression.

I think that this form of expressive healing also has as a by-product the development of an “other-oriented” way of living life.  As we all know too well, we can create some crazy-making scenarios, get fixated, and become obsessed with our own thoughts, usually in some less-than-healthy ways, and very Foften bringing us in touch with our own delusions and consequences.

© Christopher Bear-Beam August 15, 2014

Author’s Note: I purposefully used Janet Frame’s first name throughout this blog; I felt it would be more familiar & intimate, and that we could better relate to Janet as a fully-developed human being, as indeed all of us are.

Traditional Jobs For Men And Women And The Gender Divide

by Silicon Valley Blogger on 2007-05-29

I came across an interesting article in the San Jose Mercury News which tackles the concept of “occupational segregation.” What is it about?

Despite the women’s movement and the changes that occurred in the 70′s and 80′s that helped women make larger strides in the workforce, social economists are now saying that the progress that allowed the gender crossover in jobs may have stalled a bit since the last decade. The social scientists call this “occupational segregation” and they don’t seem to be too happy about it.

Why so?

Why the need to have a more equal workforce?

#1 To narrow the pay gap
Women earn 25% less than men do in general. But the reason why everyone harps about women getting less money than men do in their jobs is because of the type of jobs that most women find themselves in. If a man finds himself working in a “female” oriented job, he ends up earning 12.5 percent less than his male counterparts; whereas a woman who works in a “male” dominated field earns 25.9 percent more than her female peers. So interestingly, it’s all about the job type that changes the averages here.

#2 To better respond to shortages in fields, jobs, industries
Instead of getting worked up over perceived shortages in certain professions, it would be great if the labor pool can be easily balanced out by drawing from a supply of trained men or women to cover the skill gaps. But this is tough to achieve in reality because job stereotyping by gender is alive and well and is hard to vanquish. Even with laws out there that encourage openness in professions, the enforcement of sexual discrimination laws has been weak.

Data from the San Jose Mercury News:

The 10 Most Female Occupations

(highest percentage of workers that are female)

Occupation % Female Annual Wage
Dental hygienists 98.6% $60,980
Preschool and kindergarten teachers 97.7% $21,990
Secretaries and administrative assistants 96.9% $26,670
Dental assistants 95.4% $29,520
Speech-language pathologists 95.3% $54,880
Licensed practical and licensed vocational nurses 94.2% $35,230
Child care workers 94.2% $17,050
Hairdressers, hair stylists and cosmetologists 93.4% $20,610
Receptionists and information clerks 92.7% $22,150
Payroll and timekeeping clerks 92.4% $31,360

The 10 Most Male Occupations

(highest percentage of workers that are male)

Occupation % Male Annual Wage
Logging workers 99.8% $29,430
Automotive body and related repairers 99.4% $34,810
Cement masons, concrete finishers and terrazzo workers 99.3% $32,030
Bus and truck mechanics and diesel engine specialists 99.1% $36,620
Electrical power-line installers and repairers 99.1% $50,150
Tool and die makers 99.1% $43,580
Roofers 98.9% $31,230
Heavy vehicle/mobile equipment service technicians and mechanics 98.6% $39,410
Home appliance repairers 98.5% $32,980
Crane and tower operators 98.5% $38,870

But how do we really feel about gender crossovers in the workplace? How comfortable would you be to see men in the maternity ward and day care centers or women in trucking, construction and heavy machinery operations? Strangely, I’m reading some reports which contradict the pay gap issues, such as this article, which appears that in less traditional and more gender blind type jobs, women in fact are earning more than men!

So don’t cry for the women yet, because reports are popping up about how they are

at a better pace than men are doing in the last several years.

It would be great to achieve an ideal employment balance on a national scale and I believe we’re still very much headed in the right direction. But I don’t lose sleep over the preponderance of traditional jobs today. We have immigration resolving job shortage issues (though that’s another hot topic!), plus there are less gender specific jobs out there that we can always try to gain skills for.

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